Social Emotional Learning (SEL): Why It Matters in Early Childhood

A new long-term study suggests that the emotional lessons of the early years may matter well into adulthood.

What if some of the most important things a child learns in preschool have nothing to do with letters, numbers, or writing their name?

What if they are about naming a feeling, working through a friendship, handling frustration, and asking for help?

A longitudinal study published in American Psychologist in September 2026 gives this question real weight. Researchers followed children from Head Start preschool programmes into young adulthood to see whether adding social-emotional and language support to early learning made a lasting difference.

It did. Young adults who had been part of the research-based REDI programme reported better outcomes on seven of eleven well-being measures than peers from standard Head Start classrooms.

They reported:

• Fewer depressive symptoms

• Less loneliness

• Greater empathy

• More emotional support

• Fewer conduct problems

• More healthy days

• Higher life satisfaction

The study does not claim that preschool alone decides a person’s future. What it does show is the potential long-term value of deliberately nurturing social, emotional, and language skills in the early years.

What is Social Emotional Learning (SEL)?

SEL is the process of helping children understand and manage their emotions, build relationships, make thoughtful choices, and handle everyday challenges.

In early childhood, it rarely looks like a lesson. It looks like:

• A child saying, “I’m upset because I wanted that toy.”

• A child waiting for a turn, even though waiting is hard.

• A child discovering that feeling angry is okay, but hurting a friend is not.

• A child noticing that a friend is sad and finding a kind way to respond.
  

These moments seem small, but they are where the learning happens.

What the Research Found

REDI (Research-based, Developmentally Informed) was an enriched preschool programme that gave teachers structured activities and support to build social-emotional and language skills together.

Researchers compared 192 children in REDI with 164 children in standard Head Start classrooms. At ages 21 to 22, the REDI group showed more favourable outcomes on seven of the eleven well-being measures. The other four showed no statistically detected difference.

The combination of emotional and language skills is what stands out. Children learned to recognise emotions, build friendships, solve social problems, and find the words for their feelings and needs.

This matters because young children often cannot explain what is going on inside them. What looks like defiance, aggression, or withdrawal is often a child struggling to say what they feel. When we give children the language for their inner world, we help them move through their outer one.

Why SEL Belongs in the Early Years

Early childhood is a time of rapid growth. Children are forming a sense of self, building relationships beyond their families, negotiating differences, and meeting unfamiliar situations.

Yet school readiness is still often measured by academics alone. Can they recognise letters? Count? Write? Follow instructions?

Those skills matter, but so do these questions:

• Can the child ask for help when overwhelmed?

• Can they begin to resolve a disagreement?

• Can they cope when things don’t go their way?

• Can they express a need without hitting or withdrawing?

A child who builds emotional awareness, communication, self-regulation, and empathy carries those skills far beyond the classroom.

SEL in Everyday Life

SEL doesn’t need another worksheet or a new subject on the timetable. It lives in how adults speak, how classrooms are set up, and how conflicts are handled.

1. Name feelings without judgement. Instead of “Stop crying, it’s nothing,” try “You seem disappointed because your tower fell down.” The child learns to connect an experience with an emotion.

2. Teach what to do with big feelings. Children need support to pause, breathe, ask for help, or find a safe way to let frustration out. Regulation is a skill that grows with practice and with the calm presence of trusted adults.

3. Treat conflict as a chance to learn. When two children want the same toy, guide them to say what they want, listen to each other, and explore solutions instead of simply handing down a ruling.

4. Make kindness and inclusion routine. Children can learn to notice when a friend needs support, respect differences, take turns, and see that everyone belongs, however they communicate, learn, or play.

5. Build emotional vocabulary through stories and play. Books, pretend play, storytelling, and open-ended questions let children explore feelings, see other perspectives, and practise sharing their thoughts.

What we do at Mini Mavericks

At Mini Mavericks Early Learning Centre, our happiness-driven, inclusion-led philosophy rests on one belief: children learn best when they feel safe, respected, understood, and supported.

We want children to build strong academic foundations, curiosity, creativity, and independence. We also want them to express themselves, form relationships, face challenges, and know that their feelings matter.

In practice, this means looking beyond whether an activity was completed. We notice how a child approached it, how they responded when it got hard, whether they asked for help, and how they treated others. We accept that children develop at different paces and that emotional skills need patient, intentional support.

And we believe inclusion is more than having children with different needs in the same room. It means creating a space where every child can participate, connect, and thrive.

How Parents Can Support SEL at Home

You don’t need elaborate activities or special materials. Everyday moments are enough.

• Talk about feelings. Ask, “What made you happy today?” or “Was anything hard?”

• Listen before correcting. Help your child feel heard before moving to problem-solving.

• Model regulation. Let them see you pause, take a breath, and repair a conversation after a tough moment.

• Encourage problem-solving. Ask, “What do you think we could try next?”

• Make room for mistakes. A mistake does not make a child a failure.

• Notice effort and empathy. Acknowledge it when your child keeps trying, asks for help, includes someone, or tries to understand another person’s feelings.

The goal is not to keep children happy every minute. It is to help them build the skills and relationships that carry them through both the happy and the difficult moments.

Preparing Children for Life, Not Just the Next Class

The REDI findings remind educators and families that early education can nurture far more than academic readiness.

We cannot predict every challenge a child will meet as an adult, and no preschool can guarantee future happiness or mental well-being. But we can give children real chances, while they are young, to practise emotional awareness, communication, empathy, problem-solving, and friendship.

At Mini Mavericks, we believe education should make room for the whole child, not just the one who answers correctly, finishes the task, or sits quietly.

We are not just preparing children for their next classroom. We are nurturing the foundations they will carry through life.

Reference: Bierman, K. L., Heinrichs, B. S., Welsh, J. A., Jones, D. E., & Crowley, D. M. (2026). Promoting resilience with social-emotional learning: Young adult follow-up of a preschool randomized-controlled trial. American Psychologist. https://doi.org/10.1037/amp0001765

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